Sometimes, after sifting through my social media feeds, I have this feeling that I should be doing crazy awesome stuff ALL THE TIME!!! Does that ever happen to you?
I mean, everyone else is, right? That person is traveling across the world, this person’s going on a sweet climbing trip, over there is someone who just quit their job and bought a van in which to go galavanting around the country. Eventually, in my brain, all of those separate people doing their individual awesome things start to meld together into one giant Twitter Hive Person; an aggregate of everyone I follow. And that person is AWESOME. The Twitter Hive Person is traveling, adventuring, helping people, making delicious, healthy food, scaling mountains, exercising religiously, pressing 24kg kettlebells while standing on one leg, and having fun dinner parties every single night.
I’m not a crazy adventurous *do cool stuff all the time* person. But, sometimes I feel like I *should* be. Maybe I’m too busy comparing myself to the Twitter Hive Person. Maybe I don’t have quite the right balance of normal vs. adventure worked out in my own day-to-day. But, whatever the reason, I sometimes hear a little voice in my head that says “you should be doing more awesome stuff all the time.” And then I feel bad.
I pretty much didn’t do anything extraordinarily cool or adventurous all winter. December was a sad and heavy month. I spent a lot of time with family, and I barely got outside other than to walk to and from the bus stop. January and February weren’t much different. After a few months of laying low, the pendulum is now swinging the other way. This week, Minneapolis got 9″ of fresh, lovely snow added to our snowpack. After months of just wanting to sit on the couch and knit, I suddenly had the urge for a little adventure. So, my husband and I got out the cross-country skis and headlamps and did some night skiing. We liked it so much that we went out the following evening as well.
One of my favorite little books, “The Tao of Pooh,” speaks about the importance of recognizing one’s true nature. For example, birds fly really well, but most aren’t that great at swimming or jumping. They’re just not built that way. I like going on big trips and climbing mountains, and I also like long stretches of time firmly ensconced in a routine at home. Recognizing and accepting my own nature, and not thinking I *should* be some other way than how I am, removes an incredible amount of pressure. And with all of that energy not going into trying to be someone I’m not, I have a lot more to put into who I actually am.
So, it’s OK to not be doing crazy awesome things all the time. In fact, it’s probably good. It is for me, at least. If you find yourself comparing yourself to an impossible-to-keep-up-with Twitter Hive Person, take a deep breath, step back, and don’t judge yourself. Take away inspiration from what others are doing, and then integrate that into your life in a way that honors your own true nature.